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Why Slowing Down Is the Key to Getting More Done "The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities." - Stephen Covey What You'll Learn Why constant busyness undermines true productivity The scientific case for "slow productivity" as a leadership approach Practical strategies to break free from distraction and create meaningful output How to model focused work and build a team culture that values quality over quantity In today's hyperconnected workplace, we can easily confused busyness with productivity. Leaders proudly wear their packed calendars and constant availability as badges of honor, while teams frantically multitask through days filled with interruptions. Yet despite longer hours and increasing technological assistance, meaningful output often remains frustratingly elusive. This phenomenon - what we might call the "productivity paradox" - reveals a fundamental misunderstanding about how our brains work and how true productivity happens. What if the secret to getting more done isn't working faster, but actually slowing down? The Hidden Cost of Busyness Our default work patterns come with staggering costs that remain largely invisible until we examine the research: Constant Interruptions Destroy Focus Every time your concentration is broken - by an email notification, a Slack message, or a colleague stopping by - it takes an average of 23 minutes and 15 seconds to fully regain focus. This finding from University of California research explains why even a day filled with activity can feel strangely unproductive. With employees facing over 160 workplace distractions weekly , deep thinking becomes nearly impossible. Task-Switching Depletes Cognitive Resource s The American Psychological Association reports that 40% of adults routinely multitask with digital devices, a habit that significantly increases stress while paradoxically reducing output. Even more concerning, research shows that task-switching can rob us of up to 40% of our productive time due to the cognitive load of constantly reorienting our attention. Email Addiction Fragments Our Days According to Harvard Business Review , the average knowledge worker spends 28% of their workweek managing email, with many checking their inbox compulsively throughout the day. This creates a constant stream of low-value interruptions that fragment our attention and prevent the sustained focus necessary for meaningful work. The cumulative cost of these workplace distractions represents a massive drag on organizational productivity. The Science of Slow Productivity Cal Newport's concept of "slow productivity" offers a compelling alternative to our frantic default. Rather than maximizing the number of tasks completed, slow productivity focuses on the value and quality of our output. This approach aligns perfectly with what neuroscience tells us about how our brains perform at their best. The core principles include: Working at a Natural Pace Research shows that rushing through work actually extends completion time by 27% due to errors and rework. By slowing down deliberately, we paradoxically finish faster and with higher quality results. Embracing Deep Work Newport defines deep work as "professional activities performed in a state of distraction-free concentration that push your cognitive capabilities to their limit." This type of work creates substantially more value than what he calls "shallow work" - the email checking, meeting attending, and administrative tasks that consume most workdays. Creating Space for Reflection Studies consistently demonstrate that individuals who engage in focused work periods experience significantly improved performance compared to those who remain in a state of constant partial attention. Leaders who build reflection time into their schedules make better decisions and develop more innovative solutions. Breaking Free from the Busyness Trap If you're ready to embrace slow productivity, consider these evidence-based strategies: 1. Implement Time Blocking Rather than reacting to whatever demands your attention, proactively schedule blocks of time for different types of work. Research shows that this approach significantly reduces context-switching and increases output quality. Start with just two 90-minute deep work sessions per week. Protect this time vigorously - turn off notifications, close your door, and focus exclusively on high-value work that moves your most important priorities forward. 2. Practice Digital Minimalism As mentioned alread y, task-switching depletes our cognitive resources . Breaking this pattern requires intentional choices about technology use. Try these approaches: Batch process emails 2-3 times daily instead of checking continuously Set communication expectations with your team (you don't need to respond instantly) Use "do not disturb" settings during focused work periods Remove non-essential apps from your devices 3. Model What Matters As a leader, your behavior sets powerful standards. When you demonstrate frantic busyness, you communicate that this is what you value and expect from your team. Instead, model focused attention and thoughtful prioritization. Share with your team when you're engaging in deep work and how you protect this time. Talk openly about the difference between productive output and mere activity. Celebrate quality contributions rather than hours worked or emails answered. 4. Create Strategic Stopping Points Counterintuitively, one of the most effective productivity strategies is to deliberately stop working at predetermined times. This creates healthy pressure to focus on what truly matters while forcing prioritization decisions. Hemingway famously stopped writing mid-sentence at the end of his workday so he could easily dive back in the next morning. This technique works because our brains continue processing problems unconsciously during breaks, often leading to breakthrough insights upon return. From Busyness to Meaningful Productivity The shift from busyness to true productivity requires courage. It means saying no to many good opportunities to focus on a few great ones. It means risking FOMO (fear of missing out) to gain JOMO (joy of missing out) . And it means challenging cultural norms that equate constant activity with value. But the rewards are extraordinary. Leaders who embrace slow productivity report not only better results but also greater fulfillment, improved health, and stronger relationships both at work and home. Remember: Your value isn't determined by the number of items you check off a list, but by the significance of your contribution. Productivity isn't busyness - it's meaningful progress toward what matters most. What would change if you slowed down to speed up? Did you find this article valuable? Don't miss our weekly insights on transformational leadership and building exceptional cultures. Subscribe to Elevate Your Culture  - our Monday morning newsletter delivering actionable leadership strategies directly to your inbox. Join leaders across industries who start their week with clarity, purpose, and practical tools to unlock potential in themselves and their teams. No time for another newsletter? Follow us on LinkedIn  for bite-sized leadership wisdom throughout the week.

The Imposter Syndrome is the belief shared by many successful people that they are not really capable of doing the job they are in, and they feel like a fraud and are thus afraid they will be found to be an “imposter.” One study found that 84% of executives have this unconscious view of themselves… after coaching thousands of managers over the past 30 years, we would say that it is closer to 100%. Including each of us. And if you find yourself feeling like an imposter, you’re not alone…. Millions of people have similar feelings . Don’t take our word for it. Here are some insights from 18 famous people who’ve acknowledged they have had, or still do, suffer from Impostor Syndrome. From Nobel Prize winning Albert Einstein to Serena Williams, this list will likely surprise you. Albert Einstein “The exaggerated esteem in which my lifework is held makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler.” Maya Angelou Nobel Laureate Maya Angelou often felt like a fraud, "I have written 11 books, but each time I think, 'uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.'" Michelle Obama “I still have a little impostor syndrome… It doesn’t go away, that feeling that you shouldn’t take me that seriously. What do I know? I share that with you because we all have doubts in our abilities, about our power and what that power is.” Howard Schultz The famous CEO of Starbucks said, “Very few people, whether you’ve been in that job before or not, get into the seat and believe today that they are now qualified to be the CEO. They’re not going to tell you that, but it’s true.” Sheryl Sandberg Sheryl Sandberg, Harvard grad and Facebook COO, wrote in her book Lean In : “Every time I took a test, I was sure that it had gone badly. And every time I didn’t embarrass myself -- or even excelled -- I believed that I had fooled everyone yet again. One day soon, the jig would be up.” Dr. Margaret Chan Dr. Margaret Chan, ranked by Forbes as the 13th most powerful woman in the world, said, “There are an awful lot of people out there who think I’m an expert. How do these people believe all this about me? I’m so much aware of all the things I don’t know.” Natalie Portman Academy Award winning actress Natalie Portman, who graduated from Harvard, said in her 2015 Harvard commencement speech, “Today, I feel much like I did when I came to Harvard Yard as a freshman in 1999. I felt like there had been some mistake, that I wasn’t smart enough to be in this company, and that every time I opened my mouth I would have to prove that I wasn’t just a dumb actress.” Tom Hanks "No matter what we've done, there comes a point where you think, 'How did I get here? When are they going to discover that I am, in fact, a fraud and take everything away from me?'” Arianna Huffington “I’d been obsessed with going to Cambridge even before I’d learned English, and my mother had somehow helped make it happen from our one-bedroom apartment in Athens. I felt like there I finally was, but the minute I opened my mouth, people would know I didn’t really belong. My mother taught me that fearlessness isn’t the absence of fear, but the mastery of it. I leaned into my fear by trying to get into the Cambridge Union (the debating society,) where I eventually became the first foreign president. What I learned was that what you have to say is more important than how you sound, which is to say that that feeling that we don’t belong is much more likely to come from us — from that obnoxious roommate inside our heads — than it is from someone else (who is likely dealing with their own forms of imposter syndrome).” Seth Godin “Yes, you’re an impostor. So am I and so is everyone else. Superman still lives on Krypton and the rest of us are just doing our best.” Tina Fey “The beauty of the impostor syndrome is you vacillate between extreme egomania, and a complete feeling of: 'I'm a fraud! Oh god, they're on to me! I'm a fraud!' So you just try to ride the egomania when it comes and enjoy it, and then slide through the idea of fraud.” Sonia Sotomayor As the first Hispanic Supreme Court justice, Sonia Sotomayor has admitted to feeling like a fraud and not fitting in throughout her life. “I have spent my years since Princeton, while at law school and in my various professional jobs, not feeling completely a part of the worlds I inhabit. I am always looking over my shoulder wondering if I measure up.”. Interested in a Bulk Book order? E-mail   [email protected]   for a discount code. Lupita Nyong’o "I go through acute imposter syndrome with every role. I think winning an Oscar may in fact have made it worse. Now I’ve achieved this, what am I going to do next? What do I strive for? Then I remember that I didn’t get into acting for the accolades, I got into it for the joy of telling stories.” Emma Watson “It’s almost like the better I do, the more my feeling of inadequacy actually increases, because I’m just going, ‘Any moment, someone’s going to find out I’m a total fraud, and that I don’t deserve any of what I’ve achieved.” Padma Lakshmi "On the first season of Top Chef, I suffered from impostor syndrome.” Maisie Williams Game of Thrones actress, Maisie Williams (Arya Stark) said “I think even being an actress for over a decade now, I still have imposter syndrome. Where you're asking yourself, 'Oh, is this really what I'm supposed to be doing?’” Barbara Corcoran‍‍‍ Famous for her role on “Shark Tank,” real estate mogul Barbara Corcoran said, “Who doesn’t suffer from imposter syndrome? Even when I sold my business for $66 Million, I felt like an absolute fraud!” Serena Williams Tennis phenom Serena Williams said, “There were two Venus Williamses in our family. It was crazy… my parents would make me order first, but once she ordered, I’d change my mind. It was tough for me to stop being Venus and become the person I am.” Conclusion We (our team here at Phoenix Performance Partners) each have struggled with imposter syndrome for years. How about you? You may not be famous (yet), but we’d encourage you to think about how the imposter syndrome may be blocking you from the success and contentment that you want. We offer a few ideas on how to approach the task of disempowering this internal critic: Begin to notice when that voice in your head is being demeaning, critical or discrediting. Choose whether you are going to believe it… or not. p.s. Would you allow anyone else to say those things to you? We doubt it. Work on developing a Growth Mindset . This conscious way of approaching challenges in life has been extremely useful for many. Ask for coaching. Being humble is a sign of great strength. And people love to be asked for help/coaching as it deepens relationships, builds trust and leads to greater success. We, and many of our clients, have made tremendous progress in disempowering our imposter syndromes and those internal critics no longer trip us up. However, that voice never goes away… we have just realized that it is not the arbiter of reality. With conscious effort, it’s very possible to put imposter syndrome in the past and experience greater peace of mind which will result in more success and contentment. Did you find this article valuable? Don't miss our weekly insights on transformational leadership and building exceptional cultures. Subscribe to Elevate Your Culture  - our Monday morning newsletter delivering actionable leadership strategies directly to your inbox. Join leaders across industries who start their week with clarity, purpose, and practical tools to unlock potential in themselves and their teams. No time for another newsletter? Follow us on LinkedIn  for bite-sized leadership wisdom throughout the week. Footnote : The term “imposter syndrome” is relatively new. It was coined by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978. They wrote that it’s a feeling of “phoniness in people who believe that they are not intelligent, capable or creative despite evidence of high achievement.” Most of these people are motivated to achieve, but they’re worried that they’ll be discovered as frauds.

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." ~ George Bernard Shaw What You'll Learn Learn the difference between information sharing and true transparent communication. Explore four levels of transparency with practical examples for difficult conversations, bad news delivery, and managing uncertainty. Discover how transparency builds trust and overcomes common leadership fears. Have you ever left a meeting thinking everyone was aligned, only to discover weeks later that half your team interpreted your message completely differently? Welcome to the transparency trap—where leaders believe they're communicating openly while their teams feel left in the dark. The gap between what leaders think they're sharing and what teams actually understand is one of the most destructive forces in modern organizations. True transparent communication isn't just about sharing information. It's about sharing context, reasoning, and emotions in ways that create genuine understanding and trust. It's about moving beyond the illusion of communication to the reality of connection. The Transparency Paradox Here's what stops most leaders from communicating transparently: they confuse transparency with oversharing, openness with weakness, and vulnerability with incompetence. They worry that sharing too much information will create anxiety, confusion, or questions about their judgment. But here's the paradox: in trying to protect their teams from uncertainty, leaders often create more anxiety than if they'd simply shared the truth. When people sense that information is being withheld, their imagination fills the gaps—and imagination is rarely kind. I once worked with a CEO who spent three months carefully crafting the "perfect" way to announce a company restructuring. He wanted to control every detail of how the message was received. Meanwhile, rumors spread, top performers started job hunting, and productivity plummeted. When he finally made the announcement, several employees said, "We've been expecting this for months. We just wish you'd trusted us enough to include us in the conversation sooner." The Four Levels of Communication Transparency Not all transparency is created equal. Understanding these levels helps leaders choose the appropriate depth for different situations: Level 1: Information Transparency What it is: Sharing facts, data, and decisions after they've been made. Example: "We've decided to restructure the sales team. The changes will take effect next month." When to use: For routine updates and completed decisions that don't require input. Level 2: Process Transparency What it is: Sharing how decisions are made, who's involved, and what factors are considered. Example: "We're evaluating our sales structure. The leadership team is reviewing three options based on revenue potential, team development, and customer service impact. We'll make a decision by month-end." When to use: For decisions that affect team members but don't require their direct input. Level 3: Reasoning Transparency What it is: Sharing the why behind decisions, including trade-offs, concerns, and hoped-for outcomes. Example: "We're restructuring sales because our current model isn't scaling with our growth. While this might create short-term disruption, we believe it will improve both career development and customer relationships long-term. Here's what we're weighing..." When to use: For significant changes that will impact how people work or feel about their roles. Level 4: Vulnerability Transparency What it is: Sharing uncertainties, fears, mistakes, and learning in real-time. Example: "I'm honestly not sure this restructuring will work perfectly on the first try. I'm concerned about potential confusion during the transition, and I'm committed to adjusting quickly if we see problems. Here's what I need from you to make this successful..." When to use: During times of major change, crisis, or when trust needs rebuilding. Transparent Communication in Practice During Difficult Conversations Traditional approach: "We need to discuss your performance." Transparent approach: "I've noticed some patterns in your work that concern me, and I want to have an open conversation about what's happening and how we can address it together. I'm hoping this discussion will help us both understand the situation better and create a plan that sets you up for success." When Delivering Bad News Traditional approach: "Unfortunately, we didn't get the contract." Transparent approach: "We didn't get the contract, and I know this is disappointing for everyone who worked hard on the proposal. Here's what I learned from the client about why they chose our competitor, what we did well, and how we can improve our approach for the next opportunity." During Times of Uncertainty Traditional approach: "Everything will be fine." Transparent approach: "I don't have all the answers right now, and I know that uncertainty is stressful. Here's what I do know, what I'm working to find out, and when I expect to have more information to share." The Trust Multiplier Effect When leaders consistently communicate with transparency, several powerful dynamics emerge: Rumors Decrease : When people have reliable access to accurate information, they stop creating their own explanations for what's happening. Decision Quality Improves : Teams make better day-to-day choices when they understand the broader context and reasoning behind organizational direction. Resilience Builds : Teams that understand the "why" behind difficult changes are more likely to persist through challenging implementation periods. Overcoming Transparency Fears Fear : "If I share this uncertainty, people will lose confidence in my leadership." Reality : People already sense uncertainty. Acknowledging it while demonstrating your commitment to navigate through it actually builds confidence. Fear : "If I admit I don't know something, people will think I'm incompetent." Reality : Saying "I don't know, but here's how I'm going to find out" demonstrates competence, not weakness. Fear : "If I share my reasoning, people will argue with every decision." Reality : When people understand your reasoning, they're more likely to support decisions even when they disagree with them. The Leader's Choice Every communication choice is a trust choice. Every time you speak, you either build confidence through transparency or create doubt through opacity. Every interaction is an opportunity to demonstrate that you respect your team enough to share the truth, even when it's complex or uncomfortable. The most trusted leaders aren't those who have all the answers—they're those who are honest about what they know, what they don't know, and what they're doing to bridge the gap. Your team doesn't need you to be omniscient. They need you to be authentic. They don't need you to eliminate all uncertainty. They need you to navigate uncertainty with them, transparently and courageously. What truth will you have the courage to share more transparently this week? What context could you provide that would help your team understand not just what you're doing, but why? What vulnerability could you model that would give others permission to be more honest as well? The culture of your organization is shaped by the transparency of your communication. Choose to lead with openness, and watch as trust, engagement, and performance follow. 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"Trust is built with consistency." ~ Lincoln Chafee What's the difference between a leader people follow because they have to and one people follow because they want to? The answer isn't charisma, vision, or even competence—though all of these matter. The distinguishing factor is consistency. Consistency in words matching actions, in values being lived out daily, and in promises being kept regardless of circumstances. Yet here's the paradox most leaders face: in our fast-paced, ever-changing business environment, consistency can feel like rigidity. We worry that being consistent means being inflexible, that it prevents us from adapting to new circumstances. The truth is more nuanced. True consistency isn't about doing the same thing every time—it's about being the same person every time. As we explored in our article " You Don't Trust Me ," trust isn't built through grand gestures or perfect performance—it's built through the daily alignment of your intentions with your actions. When your team can predict how you'll respond, how you'll communicate, and how you'll honor commitments, they can invest their energy in work rather than relationship management. Think about leaders you've encountered who were incredibly talented and well-intentioned, yet somehow their teams remained on edge. Often, the issue isn't competence or character—it's inconsistency. When a leader champions work-life balance one day but sends urgent emails at midnight the next, or speaks about transparency while withholding important information, their team never knows which version of that leader they'll encounter. This unpredictability creates what we call "leadership whiplash" —where team members spend mental energy trying to read the situation and adjust their approach rather than focusing on results. Consistency eliminates this waste and creates the psychological safety necessary for high performance. The Four Pillars of Leadership Consistency Pillar 1: Emotional Consistency Your team needs to know what emotional climate to expect when they interact with you. This doesn't mean being emotionless—it means managing your emotions consciously rather than letting them manage you. Pillar 2: Values Consistency Your stated values must align with your lived values, especially when under pressure. This is where many leaders lose credibility—they compromise their stated principles when it becomes costly to maintain them. Pillar 3: Communication Consistency How you communicate creates predictability that builds psychological safety. When people know how and when you'll communicate, they can trust the process. Pillar 4: Commitment Consistency You must be consistent in honoring your commitments—both the explicit promises you make and the implicit expectations you create. Navigating Change While Staying Consistent The most common objection to consistency is: "But what about when circumstances change? What about being agile?" This reveals a fundamental misunderstanding. Consistency doesn't mean inflexibility—it means reliability in your core approach to leadership even as your specific actions evolve. Think of consistency as your leadership operating system. The applications you run (strategies, tactics, decisions) may change based on circumstances, but the operating system (values, integrity, fundamental approach) remains stable. Building Consistency Into Daily Practice Daily Consistency Practices: Morning intention setting: Begin each day by consciously choosing how you want to show up as a leader Response time standards: Establish and communicate typical response times, then honor them Decision framework: Develop a clear, predictable process for making decisions Regular check-ins: Schedule consistent connection points with your team Consistency in Difficult Moments: Take a conscious pause before responding to pressure Develop a standard approach for sharing difficult information Use the same basic method for addressing conflicts Be consistent in how you acknowledge both successes and failures The Ripple Effect When leaders demonstrate true consistency, several powerful dynamics emerge: Psychological Safety Increases:  Team members feel safe to take risks and share bad news Decision Quality Improves:  People make better decisions when they understand your framework Stress Decreases:  Predictable leadership reduces organizational anxiety Innovation Accelerates:  When people feel secure about fundamentals, they're more willing to experiment Your Next Step Rate yourself honestly on these four areas (1-10 scale): Emotional Consistency:  Do you respond to similar situations similarly, regardless of mood? Values Consistency:  Do your actions align with stated values, especially under pressure? Communication Consistency:  Is your communication style recognizable and predictable? Commitment Consistency:  Do you honor promises and communicate proactively when you can't? If you scored below 32 total, consistency may be undermining your leadership effectiveness more than you realize. This week, choose one area where you'll focus on improving consistency. Start small—perhaps it's responding to emails within your stated timeframe or beginning each team meeting the same way. Remember: consistency isn't about perfection. It's about predictability. Your team doesn't need you to be flawless—they need you to be reliable. In a world full of uncertainty, you can be the constant your team relies on. What one area of consistency will you commit to strengthening this week? Did you find this article valuable? 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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."  ~ Elbert Hubbard What You'll Learn Discover why acknowledging mistakes builds rather than undermines leadership authority. Learn the four levels of mistake acknowledgment and the GRACE framework for turning errors into trust-building opportunities. Includes practical applications for meetings, communications, and performance discussions. What if I told you that the fastest way to build trust in your organization isn't through perfection, but through admitting when you're wrong? Most leaders operate under a dangerous assumption: that acknowledging mistakes will undermine their authority and credibility. The opposite is true. In a world where employees can spot inauthentic leadership from a mile away, the leaders who courageously own their errors create cultures of psychological safety, innovation, and exceptional performance. Yet here's what stops most leaders cold: our internal Critic whispers that admitting mistakes makes us look weak, incompetent, or unfit to lead. This fear-based thinking doesn't just damage our personal growth—it creates organizational cultures where mistakes get hidden, problems fester, and trust erodes. The Hidden Cost of Perfect Leadership When leaders operate from a need to appear infallible, predictable patterns emerge across organizations. Projects fail because leaders make decisions in isolation rather than seeking input. Teams become hesitant to share concerns because previous attempts were met with defensiveness. Innovation stagnates because people fear proposing ideas that might not work perfectly the first time. The "perfect" leader creates what I call "perfection prisons"—cultures where people spend more energy covering mistakes than learning from them. Team members learn to present only polished solutions rather than collaborative problem-solving. When things go wrong, energy gets diverted into finding someone to blame rather than finding ways to improve. Perhaps most damaging is the message this sends: in this organization, being right matters more than being effective. The leader's need to maintain an image of infallibility becomes more important than the team's ability to learn, grow, and produce exceptional results. This is what happens when leaders confuse infallibility with authority. They isolate themselves from the very information they need to make good decisions, create distance from the people they're meant to serve, and model behavior that prioritizes ego protection over organizational success. The Science of Psychological Safety Research by Harvard Business School's Amy Edmondson reveals that teams with the highest performance levels don't make fewer mistakes—they report more of them. Her foundational study discovered that better-performing hospital teams actually reported higher error rates, not because they made more mistakes, but because they felt safe enough to acknowledge and discuss them openly (Edmondson, A. C. (1999). Psychological safety and learning behavior in work teams. Administrative Science Quarterly, 44(2), 350-383). This groundbreaking research established that psychological safety enables teams to learn from failures rather than hide them. When leaders model mistake acknowledgment, they give their teams permission to be human. This creates psychological safety—the belief that you can show vulnerability, ask questions, and admit errors without fear of negative consequences. From Fear to Love: The Mindset Shift In our work at Phoenix Performance Partners, we've discovered that mistake acknowledgment is fundamentally about shifting from fear-based to love-based leadership: Fear-based thinking says: "If I admit this mistake, people will lose confidence in me" "I need to have all the answers to maintain my authority" "Showing vulnerability makes me look weak" "My job is to appear infallible" Love-based thinking says: "If I model authenticity, my team will trust me more" "My job is to create an environment where we all learn and grow" "Showing vulnerability demonstrates courage and humanity" "My authority comes from empowering others, not protecting my ego" This shift from unconscious self-protection to conscious service of others transforms not just individual leaders, but entire organizational cultures. The Four Levels of Mistake Acknowledgment Not all mistake acknowledgments are created equal. Here are the four levels, from weakest to strongest: Level 1: The Deflection "Mistakes were made, but circumstances were challenging." This acknowledges that something went wrong without taking personal responsibility. It's barely better than denial and often damages trust further. Level 2: The Technical Admission "I made an error in judgment on the budget allocation." This takes responsibility but focuses only on the technical aspect without emotional acknowledgment or learning. Level 3: The Personal Ownership "I made a mistake on the budget allocation. I should have consulted the team before making that decision, and I understand how it affected everyone's workload." This includes personal responsibility, impact awareness, and shows consideration for others affected. Level 4: The Growth Opportunity "I made a mistake on the budget allocation. I should have consulted the team, and I can see how my decision increased everyone's stress. Here's what I've learned and how I'll approach similar decisions differently going forward. I'd also like to hear your thoughts on how we can prevent this type of issue in the future." This includes responsibility, impact awareness, learning, future commitment, and invites collaboration. The GRACE Framework for Acknowledging Mistakes When you need to acknowledge a mistake, use this framework: G - Get Clear on What Actually Happened Before speaking publicly, understand exactly what went wrong and your role in it. Avoid the temptation to minimize or rationalize. R - Recognize the Impact on Others Consider how your mistake affected team members, customers, or stakeholders. Acknowledge both practical and emotional impacts. A - Accept Full Responsibility Own your part completely without deflecting blame or citing extenuating circumstances. Use "I" statements, not "we" or passive voice. C - Commit to Learning and Change Share what you've learned and how you'll approach similar situations differently. Make specific commitments about future behavior. E - Engage Others in Solutions Ask for input on preventing similar issues and invite collaboration on moving forward. This transforms a mistake into a team learning opportunity. Practical Applications: Making This Real In Team Meetings:  Start your next team meeting by sharing a mistake you made recently and what you learned from it. This immediately signals that your organization values learning over perfection. In One-on-Ones:  When a team member makes a mistake, share a similar error you've made and how you handled it. This creates connection and reduces shame. In Public Communications:  When things go wrong publicly, lead with acknowledgment rather than explanation. Customers and stakeholders respect honesty far more than elaborate justifications. In Performance Reviews:  Include your own mistakes and learning in performance discussions. This models growth mindset and makes it safe for others to be honest about their challenges. The Ripple Effect of Authentic Leadership When leaders consistently acknowledge mistakes with grace and learning, extraordinary things happen: Innovation Increases:  Teams feel safe to experiment because they know failure won't be punished—it will be examined and learned from. Communication Improves:  People share problems early when they trust they won't be blamed, allowing for faster problem-solving. Trust Deepens:  Authenticity builds credibility faster than any display of competence. Performance Accelerates:  Energy that was spent hiding mistakes gets redirected toward solving problems and preventing future issues. Culture Transforms:  Organizations shift from blame-focused to learning-focused, creating competitive advantages that are difficult to replicate. Your Challenge This Week Here's your growth opportunity: Identify one mistake you've made recently that you haven't fully acknowledged. It doesn't have to be catastrophic—even small errors offer powerful learning opportunities. Use the GRACE framework to acknowledge it with your team or relevant stakeholders. Notice what happens when you lead with vulnerability rather than invincibility. Remember : the goal isn't to become mistake-prone or lose your authority. It's to create an environment where mistakes become stepping stones to excellence rather than stumbling blocks to progress. The Leader's Choice Every mistake presents a choice: Will you protect your ego or serve your purpose? Will you model perfection or demonstrate growth? Will you create fear or foster love? The most transformational leaders understand that their authority doesn't come from being right all the time—it comes from their willingness to be real all the time. Your team doesn't need a perfect leader. They need a courageous one. They need someone who shows them that mistakes aren't failures—they're opportunities to get better together. What mistake will you have the courage to acknowledge this week? The future of your culture may depend on your answer.

The Leader's Journey to Understanding "The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existence." - Albert Einstein Have you ever caught yourself mid-judgment, about to react to a situation, only to realize you don't have the full story? That moment of pause – that recognition that there might be more to understand – marks the beginning of a powerful leadership transformation. The Cost of Quick Judgment Leaders face a daily paradox: We must make quick decisions with incomplete information, yet these same quick judgments often lead us astray in understanding our people. Our brains are wired for efficiency, rapidly categorizing experiences into "threats" or "non-threats." While this served our ancestors well when facing physical dangers, it creates blind spots in modern leadership. Consider this scenario: A high-performing team member suddenly starts missing deadlines. The default response? Often it's frustration, judgment, or immediate corrective action. But what if we replaced that reflexive judgment with genuine curiosity? The Power of the Curious Mind Curiosity transforms our leadership in three fundamental ways: It Suspends Judgment Instead of "Why can't they get it right?" we ask "What might I not understand?" Rather than assuming incompetence, we explore context We move from reaction to investigation It Creates Connection Genuine questions signal respect and interest People feel seen rather than judged Trust deepens through understanding It Reveals Solutions New perspectives emerge Hidden barriers surface Innovation flows from fresh insights The Art of Curious Questions Not all questions are created equal. Here's how to craft questions that transform: Instead of Assuming, Ask: "What challenges are you encountering?" "How could I better support you?" "What would make this easier?" "What am I missing?" Instead of Directing, Explore: "What solutions have you considered?" "What would you do if resources weren't limited?" "How would you approach this differently?" "What would success look like to you?" Instead of Judging, Understand: "Help me understand your thinking here" "Walk me through your process" "What factors influenced this decision?" "What trade-offs did you consider?" Breaking the Assumption Cycle Every leader has blind spots – areas where our assumptions run on autopilot. Here's a practical tool to interrupt this cycle: The PAUSE Framework: P ause: Notice your immediate reaction A cknowledge: Your assumptions might be incomplete U nderstand: Seek additional context S ynthesize: Connect new information E ngage: Move forward with fuller understanding Real World Application Let's return to our earlier scenario of the suddenly-struggling team member. Using our PAUSE framework: Pause : Notice your frustration about missed deadlines Acknowledge : Your view might be incomplete Understand : "I've noticed some deadlines slipping lately. Help me understand what's happening." Synthesize : Listen for patterns or systemic issues Engage : Collaborate on solutions based on new understanding In one real case, this approach revealed that a team member's "performance issues" actually stemmed from them covering for a struggling colleague – information that would never have surfaced without curious inquiry. Developing Your Curiosity Muscle Like any skill, curiosity can be strengthened. Try these daily practices: Morning Reflection What assumptions am I carrying into today? Where might I be operating on autopilot? What don't I know about my current challenges? Meeting Practice Ask at least one genuine question in every meeting Notice when you're making assumptions Seek out different perspectives intentionally End-of-Day Review What surprised me today? What new understanding did I gain? Where did curiosity lead to better outcomes? The Leadership Challenge This week, choose one challenging situation and approach it with radical curiosity: List your current assumptions Craft three genuine questions that could challenge those assumptions Have a conversation focused purely on understanding Notice what shifts in your perspective The Path Forward Remember: The goal isn't to eliminate judgment – it's to pause long enough to ensure our judgments are well-informed. Every time you choose curiosity over assumption, you create space for innovation, connection, and growth. As leaders, our questions often matter more than our answers. They signal what we value, what we notice, and how we think. By developing our capacity for curiosity, we don't just solve today's problems better – we build cultures where creativity and innovation naturally flourish. What assumptions will you question today? Consider sharing this article with your team and discussing: When has curiosity led you to a breakthrough understanding? What assumptions might we be making as a team that deserve deeper investigation?

After months of this pandemic experience, many people are all yearning to get back to normal . And, we are not going back, but forward .  The question is to what? That question is what is haunting most Superintendents and CEOs that we talk with. Are you a CEO? Click here to join the conversation Even the idea of creating the new normal is seductively reassuring, and dangerously inaccurate; like somehow there will be some normal state that we can just invent and then go on with life.  The changes ushered in by this pandemic experience will alter the nature of work and organizations forever. The immediately obvious changes; remote work, the need for connectedness, new technologies, and altered mindsets are just the tip of a very large, unknown iceberg.  We are not going forward to a normal, steady state. Instead, we are taking a quantum leap toward an ever-increasing rate of constant change .  None of us know what those changes will be. The new reality calls for a whole new level of creativity . There are many barriers to creativity in our nature (which we’ll explore in an article later this week). As leaders of our organizations, we are called upon to orchestrate the co-creation of new cultures with some distinctly different characteristics. Here are some of the characteristics that we suspect will be required based on what we have learned over the last three decades of partnering with CEOs to create high performing cultures: Personal Purpose: The extent to which people take personal responsibility for their ownership of the purpose of the organization.  Courage : The propensity to take risks and to grow beyond our comfort zone. Trust : The extent to which people feel that their colleagues share a mutual commitment to one another’s success.  Psychological Safety : How freely can people make and admit mistakes without the fear of ridicule? Distributed Authority : Are we trying to tell people how to do their jobs or giving them a result to produce and allowing discretion to choose their approach? Distributed authority is no longer an esoteric management theory, in a remote workforce, it’s just the reality.  Role clarity : Clear, unrestrictive responsibilities rooted in commitment to producing results. Openness to Coaching : How freely can people accept challenges from others without becoming defensive? Together, these characteristics produce creativity, teamwork, engagement and innovation. Embodying these cultural characteristics may be the ultimate form of creativity, which requires leaders to equip themselves with a whole new set of tools to lead, manage and coach. There is another important set of human characteristics that will destroy such a culture: drama condescension selfishness blame … these unconscious motivations all spring forth from human nature and must be consciously inoculated against. We refer to these as Universal Detractors because regardless of the industry you are in, they detract from effectiveness. As a leader , how will you inoculate your organization against the Universal Detractors? And how will you develop the conscious awareness to nurture creativity, teamwork and innovation? JOIN THE CONVERSATION:  We are assembling a group of mission focused CEOs, Superintendents, Executive Directors, & Presidents who value integrity and personal growth to share their ideas about the post pandemic world we must adapt to in order to thrive.  If you are interested and have questions or comments , please email one of us: [email protected] or [email protected] Or if you’d like to chat about it, click here ( Brad or Tom ) to set up a 30-minute appointment. www.phoenixperform.com/interchange

From the time we were young in school, we were taught that success is a function of our ability to get stuff done.   Most of us have been promoted to leadership positions because of a demonstrated propensity to get stuff done.  Unfortunately, getting stuff done is no longer job #1.  To be effective in these leadership positions, we need to shift our approach from getting stuff done to leading, managing, and coaching others to get stuff done. If we don’t make that mental leap, we end up being like super-Heroes… except we often end up working long hours, never catching up, and risking burn out.  CEOs & School Superintendents come to us to help themselves and their teams make this leap. The changes ushered in by the pandemic experience of 2020 will change the nature of work and organizations forever. Our societal values, consumption patterns, distribution logistics, personal needs (and lots of other aspects of life) are all changing and will continue to change.   As leaders of our organizations, we are called upon to ensure the creation of innovative approaches that meet those changing needs.  If we approach the task of creating the innovative changes required like a “Super-Hero,” we will fail. In order to benefit from the vast reservoir of creative ideas within our teams, and gain the buy in of those teams, leaders must become facile at Orchestrating co-creation.  Rather than a Super-Hero, this role is more like the conductor of an orchestra. An orchestra plays a symphony as one entity. Each member must play their part and be responsive to what the other members do but primarily to the conductors’ direction. Together they produce a rich, complex performance. Without a conductor, such coordination of masterful individual performances could never be merged into such a harmonious, coordination of sound.  Conducting a classic symphony requires coordination, but the music already exists and has been played and perfected over time. The challenge we have today is more akin to improvisational jazz. Great creativity is required on the part of each member of the jazz ensemble. In addition, each member must be responsive to the others, follow or support that direction, then skillfully know when to lead in a new direction or rhythm. It is a creative effort that occurs between the members of the team, and it occurs organically rather than as a carefully controlled effort.  The role of the conductor or CEO in co-creation is to provide an environment or culture in which this sort of performance can occur. Rather than controlling, perfecting, or even coaching the team, it is the CEO’s job to foster an environment in which the team can improvise, and like a jazz ensemble, do so in ways that produce great performances that may be unique, and get the job done, every time. Join other CEOs:  We are assembling a group of mission focused CEOs who value integrity and personal growth to share their ideas about the post pandemic world we must adapt to in order to thrive.  If you are interested, you can simply reply to this email with questions or comments. Or if you’d like to chat about it, click  here  ( Brad  or  Tom ) to set up a 30-minute appointment. The Interchange : phoenixperform.com/interchange

There are times in life/work when things are just hard. Really hard. Overwhelming. Exhausting. It can even feel like a swamp. A dark swamp of despair. And in those moments we need the help of others so we can keep going . If you are a CEO and are looking for a group of fellow CEOs who are committed to helping each other, we have established a culture with this group where CEOs come to learn from peers and to contribute to peers. We call this group the Interchange . Learn more here: https://www.phoenixperform.com/interchange What resonates with you in the image above?

"The most dangerous phrase in the language is, 'We've always done it this way.'"  ~ Grace Hopper  Have you ever wondered why smart, capable teams can work for the same company yet feel like they're fighting different wars?  The answer often lies in organizational silos—those invisible barriers that turn collaboration into competition and alignment into antagonism. While most leaders recognize when silos exist, they struggle to address them effectively because they're treating symptoms rather than understanding root causes.  The Hidden Cost of Organizational Silos  Here's what most silo-busting efforts get wrong: they assume all silos are created equal. The truth is, there are three distinct types of silos, each requiring a fundamentally different approach. Trying to solve an expertise silo with misaligned silo tactics is like using a hammer when you need a scalpel.  After working with hundreds of leadership teams, I've discovered that sustainable silo transformation begins with accurate diagnosis. When you understand which type of silo you're facing, the path forward becomes clear.  The Three Types of Organizational Silos  1. Misaligned Silos: When Good Metrics Create Bad Outcomes  The Core Issue:  Departments pursue their own objectives at the expense of organizational goals.  Picture this: Your product development team rushes features to market to meet quarterly release targets while your quality assurance team slows the process to eliminate defects. Both teams are hitting their metrics, yet customer satisfaction plummets from the constant conflict.  How Misaligned Silos Show Up:   Teams celebrate departmental wins that create problems for other groups  Cross-functional meetings become battlegrounds over competing priorities  Performance metrics for different teams directly conflict with each other  Issues constantly require executive escalation to resolve  The Fix:  Redesign success to require collaboration.  Start by identifying one critical cross-functional process where silos create the most damage. Then create integrated metrics that make collaboration essential for success. When your product and QA teams share customer satisfaction scores instead of competing release versus defect metrics, magic happens.  2. Expertise Silos: When Knowledge Becomes Currency  The Core Issue:  Specialized knowledge creates status, and teams restrict information flow to maintain their position.  I've watched technical teams provide only high-level summaries to implementation teams, claiming "they wouldn't understand the details." The result? Costly delays and errors that complete information sharing could have prevented.  How Expertise Silos Show Up:   Certain departments are treated as "more essential" than others  Teams share conclusions without explaining methodology  Suggestions from different expertise areas get dismissed  Rework and delays occur due to incomplete information sharing  The Fix:  Make knowledge sharing more valuable than knowledge hoarding.  Create cross-functional project teams where diverse expertise is required for success. Implement job shadowing programs and establish recognition that celebrates effective knowledge translation. When sharing expertise becomes a path to advancement rather than a threat to status, information flows freely.  3. Defensive Silos: When Fear Drives Behavior   The Core Issue:  Teams withhold information due to fear of negative consequences or becoming obsolete.  This is the trickiest silo to address because teams appear cooperative while consistently failing to deliver. A regional office might repeatedly delay providing dashboard data, citing technical issues while really fearing that transparency could lead to resource reallocation or closure.  How Defensive Silos Show Up:   Teams verbally agree to share information but consistently fail to deliver  Simple requests face procedural delays or excessive documentation  Resistance to integration despite apparent agreement  Communication is plentiful but yields little substantive information  The Fix:  Address the fear directly, then demonstrate safety through action.  Start with candid conversations about unspoken fears. Create "safe to fail" experiments where teams can collaborate without risk. Most importantly, involve concerned teams in designing the very systems they fear might threaten them.  Your Silo Diagnostic: Which Type Are You Facing?  Rate each statement from 1 (Never) to 5 (Always) based on what you observe in your organization:  Misaligned Silo Indicators:   Departments pursue targets that conflict with other teams' objectives  Teams celebrate departmental wins even when they create challenges elsewhere  Cross-functional meetings become defensive when discussing priorities  Issues frequently require senior leadership escalation  Incentives reward departmental performance over organizational success  Expertise Silo Indicators:   Certain departments are viewed as having privileged knowledge  Teams share only surface-level information, withholding context  Suggestions from different expertise areas are dismissed  Departments dependent on specialized knowledge show frustration  Rework is common due to incomplete information sharing  Defensive Silo Indicators:   Teams appear cooperative but consistently fail to deliver information  Simple requests meet excessive procedural requirements  Departments express concerns about transparency consequences  Teams resist integration despite verbal agreement  Communication is excessive but yields little meaningful exchange  Scoring:  5-11 = Low indication, 12-18 = Moderate indication, 19-25 = Strong indication  Moving from Diagnosis to Action  Once you've identified your primary silo type, here's how to begin transformation:  For Misaligned Silos:  Start today by identifying one critical cross-functional process. This week, interview key stakeholders to understand how current metrics drive behavior. This month, pilot integrated metrics for one cross-functional team.  For Expertise Silos:  Create opportunities for "expertise exchange" in your next team meeting. This week, pair specialists from different departments for mutual job shadowing. This month, launch cross-training focused on knowledge transfer.  For Defensive Silos:  Have a candid conversation addressing unspoken fears about information sharing. This week, implement "safe to fail" experiments. This month, create a transparency roadmap that clearly defines how shared information will be used.  Beyond Tactics: The Cultural Foundation  While these tactical approaches address specific silo types, lasting transformation requires examining the underlying cultural mindsets that create fertile ground for silos to grow.  Silos ultimately stem from fear-based thinking: personal agendas replacing shared purpose, assuming negative intent in others' actions, and exclusion rather than inclusion. True silo transformation happens when leaders deliberately foster love-based cultural mindsets—shared aspirational purpose, assuming positive intent, and actively seeking diverse perspectives.  The Leader's Choice  Breaking down silos isn't about eliminating specialization—it's about ensuring that information, insights, and efforts flow effectively across organizational boundaries to create exceptional results.  The most successful transformations occur when leaders diagnose accurately before implementing solutions, address root causes rather than symptoms, and model the collaborative behavior they seek to create.  Which type of silo is holding your organization back? More importantly, what's the first step you'll take this week to begin breaking it down?  Remember: silos aren't built in a day, and they won't disappear overnight . But with the right diagnosis and targeted action, you can transform isolated departments into a unified force for extraordinary results.  Did you find this article valuable? Don't miss our weekly insights on transformational leadership and building exceptional cultures. Subscribe to Elevate Your Culture  - our Monday morning newsletter delivering actionable leadership strategies directly to your inbox.  Join leaders across industries who start their week with clarity, purpose, and practical tools to unlock potential in themselves and their teams.  No time for another newsletter? Follow us on LinkedIn  for bite-sized leadership wisdom throughout the week.

What You'll Learn: Why personal transformation often requires external perspective  How identity shifts when others recognize our capabilities  The inspirational story of Jermaine Davis and the Chicago pencil seller  Leaders' responsibility to be catalysts for others' potential  The importance of remaining coachable while developing others  Questions to identify who has helped you see greater possibilities  How to pay forward the gift of recognizing others' potential  Ways to cultivate relationships with people who challenge your growth The Person Who Saw More in You Than You Saw in Yourself "The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own." - Benjamin Disraeli During a recent CEO forum discussing our book " The Great Engagement ," Dave Gehm made a profound observation that stopped everyone in their tracks. As leaders shared their stories of discovering their purpose and potential, a pattern emerged - in every single case, it was someone else who first recognized their capabilities. A spouse who believed in them. A professor who challenged them. A boss who gave them a shot at something bigger.   Our partner Jermaine Davis illustrates this beautifully with a story from Chicago. A man sold pencils and pens in the subway, where commuters would routinely drop coins in his cup without taking any items - treating him as someone needing charity rather than running a business. One day, a businessman put in a dollar bill and deliberately took a pencil, telling him "I'm a businessman, and you're a businessman also."   Years later, they crossed paths at an upscale event. The former pencil seller, now well-dressed and successful, approached the businessman and said, "Until you told me I was a businessman, I thought I was just hustling pencils and pens in a Chicago subway." Those few words had shifted his entire self-image and identity.   As leaders, we now have the profound opportunity - and responsibility - to be that catalyst for others. To see and nurture potential that they may not yet recognize in themselves. Whether it's:   The quiet team member who could be an exceptional facilitator The detail-oriented analyst who has untapped strategic abilities The technical expert who possesses natural leadership qualities   But here's the key: We must also remain coachable ourselves. Even as accomplished leaders, we need people in our lives who can spot our blind spots and expand our vision of what's possible. The journey of growth never ends.   Consider:   Who helped you see greater possibilities in yourself? How are you paying that forward by developing others? Who challenges you to keep growing today?   True transformational leadership starts with helping people discover and unlock their full potential. Sometimes all it takes is a few words of genuine belief to help someone rewrite their story.   The Choice is Yours: Will you be the one who helps others see more in themselves than they currently see? Will you remain open to others doing the same for you? …and here is a truly inspiring example of passionate leadership the Laura Tyler shared with us:    https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=556254907320740 Did you find this article valuable? Don't miss our weekly insights on transformational leadership and building exceptional cultures. Subscribe to Elevate Your Culture  - our Monday morning newsletter delivering actionable leadership strategies directly to your inbox. Subscribe Now Join leaders across industries who start their week with clarity, purpose, and practical tools to unlock potential in themselves and their teams. No time for another newsletter? Follow us on LinkedIn  for bite-sized leadership wisdom throughout the week.

What You'll Learn: How our brain's threat-detection system affects workplace interactions  The three specific costs of assuming bad intent: cultural, personal, and financial  Why assuming bad intent creates a self-fulfilling prophecy  How to measure your organization's trust deficit  Cy Wakeman's framework for moving beyond drama  A three-part leadership practice for transforming assumptions  Techniques for pausing to notice your assumptions  Strategies for choosing curiosity over judgment  Methods for tracking the impact of assumption shifts The Hidden Tax "Pain isn't from our reality - it's from our stories." - Cy Wakeman When was the last time you received an email that made your stomach clench? You know the one - where before even opening it, you're already crafting defensive responses based on who sent it and what you assume they want. Or perhaps you've seen a meeting pop up on your calendar that wasn't there yesterday, and your mind immediately races to worst-case scenarios. As Stephen Covey powerfully observes, "The worst disease that plagues organizations isn't inefficiency - it's distrust." This disease manifests most powerfully in our automatic assumption of others' bad intentions. These daily moments of assuming bad intent might seem minor, but they extract a massive toll on organizations - one that few leaders truly measure or understand. Today, let's explore this hidden tax and calculate its real cost to your organization. The Assumption Trap Your brain processes roughly 11 million bits of information at any given moment, but you're consciously aware of only about 40 of them. To manage this flood of data, your brain - specifically your amygdala - constantly scans for threats. This ancient survival mechanism served us well when threats were physical. Today in our hyperconnected workplace, this same mechanism causes us to perceive threats in every unanswered text, missed meeting invite, or corridor conversation we weren't part of. Consider these common scenarios: A colleague doesn't include you on an email Someone questions your decision in a meeting A team member misses a deadline A peer makes a decision without consulting you In each case, your amygdala offers immediate negative interpretations: They're trying to sideline me. They're undermining my authority. They don't respect my time. They're trying to grab power. The Three Hidden Costs This automatic assumption of bad intent exacts three specific costs: Cultural Cost Defensive communication becomes the norm Innovation suffers as people avoid risk Silos strengthen as teams protect "their" territory Politics replace productive dialogue Decision-making slows as people protect against imagined threats Personal Cost Increased stress and cortisol levels Reduced job satisfaction Higher burnout rates Damaged relationships Limited career growth Financial Cost The average employee spends 2.5 hours per day in workplace drama - that's 816 hours of productivity lost per person annually The average manager spends 25-40% of their time handling workplace conflicts Companies lose an estimated $359 billion in paid hours annually due to conflict The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy Here's the cruel irony: When we assume bad intent, we create it. In our work with organizations across industries, we consistently see this pattern play out between departments. Sales and operations clash over promises versus delivery capabilities. Marketing and product development battle over timelines and features. Finance and business units argue over budgets and forecasts. In each case, both sides attribute malicious intent to the other's actions, creating exactly the hostile dynamic they fear. Measuring Your Organization's Trust Deficit Take a moment to reflect on these questions: How much time in your last leadership team meeting was spent discussing interpersonal conflicts versus strategic opportunities? When was the last time you delayed a decision because you were worried about others' potential reactions? How often do you find yourself crafting defensive emails rather than picking up the phone? What percentage of your mental energy goes to managing relationships versus driving innovation? If you're like most leaders, the answers may surprise - and concern - you. Beyond the Drama As leadership expert Cy Wakeman powerfully demonstrates, the key to reducing this tax lies in asking better questions. When faced with a challenging situation, try: "What do I know for sure?" This question helps separate facts from stories, reality from interpretation. "What could I do to help?" This moves us from judgment to constructive action. "What would great look like?" This focuses our energy on possibilities rather than problems. These questions help us toggle from what Wakeman calls "low self" - where we're caught in drama and victimhood - to "high self" - where we're focused on solutions and growth. Breaking Free: A Leadership Practice This week, choose one person or department where tension exists. For each interaction: 1 - Pause and notice your assumptions What am I assuming about their intentions? What evidence (not interpretation) do I actually have? What would I do differently if I assumed they had positive intent? 2 - Choose a different response Replace your first defensive reaction with genuine curiosity Ask questions instead of making assertions Seek to understand their constraints and challenges 3 - Track the impact How does the interaction change? What new possibilities emerge? What energy is freed up for more productive work? The Leadership Choice The tax of assumed bad intent is optional - but choosing not to pay it requires conscious leadership. It demands that we override our brain's threat-detection system with conscious curiosity. The question isn't whether we'll have assumptions - we all do. The question is: will we let those assumptions silently tax our organizations, or will we bring them into the light where they can be examined and often proved wrong? Your leadership legacy may well be determined not by what you achieve, but by what you choose to assume about others' intentions. The path forward is clear: less drama, more possibility. For more insights on this topic, we recommend watching Cy Wakeman's powerful TED talk "Ditch the Drama." Did you find this article valuable? Don't miss our weekly insights on transformational leadership and building exceptional cultures. Subscribe to Elevate Your Culture  - our Monday morning newsletter delivering actionable leadership strategies directly to your inbox. Subscribe Now Join leaders across industries who start their week with clarity, purpose, and practical tools to unlock potential in themselves and their teams. No time for another newsletter? Follow us on LinkedIn  for bite-sized leadership wisdom throughout the week.